Active Couples = Fun
It’s been said many times before: once you’re in a relationship for a while, you start to become more and more like your other half. Do I believe in this cliché? Somewhat. Do I think it’s a bad notion? Not at all.
Ladies and gents, in my quest to let you in on my life a little more, I introduce to you someone very special to me:
Folks, this is Dustin. As you can tell from the picture above, we do look a lot alike. But at least it wasn’t a super-fast transition — we’ve been together for nearly two and a half years now. We didn’t start as a couple, but as friends first. Actually, the story of how we got together is quite a long one, but I’ll give you the short version really quickly so I can get to the point of this post.
How we met:
I’ll just say we met through college. We both go to Oswego State and we lived in the same dorm sophomore year. One night, he and two friends randomly walked into my room and asked if my roomie and I wanted to play some games. We all hit it off, hanging out almost every day after that. He even helped me celebrate my 19th birthday a few weeks later.
Like I said though, we didn’t become a couple right away. In fact, we didn’t start dating until the end of January 2009 and we met in October 2008. Three months is enough time to be friends before dating, right?
Anyway, even though we didn’t start dating immediately, we did connect through multiple similar interests. One of them was fitness. Now, Dustin’s interpretation of fitness is different than mine because he is a sports-only type of guy. Make him go to the gym for the hell of it? Not going to happen. But ask him to lift so that he has a strong arm for the upcoming baseball season? Sold.
I, on the other hand, like to incorporate fitness into all aspects of my life. I grew up playing sports, so that area of fitness comes naturally to me. But I hit the gym nearly every day too, or pound the pavement for a long run simply because I can and it makes me feel good. I’m still trying to explain the “pain feels good” concept more to Dustin when it’s not related to sports, but I think he understood once he saw me gushing after my half-marathon.
But what’s the best part about being one half of an active couple? It’s fun. Dustin and I do a lot of adventurous things together, which only enhances the experience because I’m sharing a unique moment with someone I’m in love with. I love that we both went water-skiing for the first time together on a trip to the Poconos.
And we go hiking together.
And we do low-key things together like bowling…
tree climbing, er, apple picking.
Basically, having a boyfriend who’s interested in fitness like I am (even if our goals are different) leads to a lot of interesting dates and remarkable memories. Why go to dinner in a stuffy restaurant when you can pack a lunch and go hiking or play catch?
Well, the playing catch part can be a touchy subject at times. You see, Dustin is a pitcher on the baseball team and I’m, well, not. I played softball in high school and play recreationally here and there, but Dustin is all about the game and can get pretty intense. In fact, he was recently named Oswego State’s Athlete of the Week, the Eastern Collegiate Athletic Conference (ECAC) Pitcher of the Week, and an honorable mention for the National Collegiate Baseball Writer’s Association Division III Pitcher of the Week.
See what I mean, though? Intense.
Back to my point: fitness with a significant other is fun. You don’t have to stick to a gym. You can incorporate fitness into dates and not even realize you’re exercising. Next up for Dustin and I: rock climbing. He’s never done it before and I’m so excited to take him!
What about you? What fun, fit dates have you been on? How do you think fitness affects your relationship? (Meaning, would your relationship be different if you were active and your significant other wasn’t? In a positive or negative way?) I’m open to all ideas!